So, let’s talk about the pros and cons of the three options you asked about: The most important thing to remember is that you can’t change your boyfriend’s behavior. Cities with local information services are listed at Find a therapist specializing in co-dependency or addiction at 4
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I think I hooked up with five different people within my first four months, and that’s not counting the occasional rendezvous with an old using buddy. Romance took me out of the rooms more times than I’d like to admit. I think dating in the rooms of AA is not unlike hooking up in prison.
There is a limited supply of broken people and we recycle each other.
So when you break up with somebody, don’t be surprised when they end up dating your sponsor or sponsee.
Dating in the program is like fishing in a small toxic pond.
Alcoholism and marriage do not mix well, in fact they do not mix at all.
Many a marriage has been ruined by the drinking of one of the partners.So there really is no hard and fast rule here – but there are some things you should think about before getting more deeply involved with someone in recovery.And if you do decide to date someone with a history of drug or alcohol use, there are a number of signs you must watch out for in order to make sure your new partner is living up to his or her promises of sobriety.People who are closest to the alcoholic often suffer the most.It’s hard not to make an abuser the center of your life as you constantly monitor what he does, where he goes and how much he drinks. But he drinks pretty much all the time when he’s not at work. After a year of this, I'm wondering if I want to share my life with my man and this habit. Focus on what you want independent of who’s at your side. So is your realization that you might want something better — even if it means living it without him.