When someone is around often but doesn’t speak much and yet you still think they like you, they could just be intimidated by you.They never talk to you unless they’re addressing you with a group of people.Because that’s the great thing about being assertive: It’s a skill we can learn and practice. Dealing with intimidating people can shake our confidence and trigger self-doubt, said psychotherapist Michelle Farris, LMFT.
much more powerful than we think, and the key to our happiness is to consistently remember that fact. How often do we give away our power by allowing our insecurities to create insane stories in our mind about other people?
I believe that in most cases, the feeling of intimidation has nothing to do with the person who intimidates us. How many people experience near-paralyzing fear and nervousness when they’re introduced to the CEO of their company (or any other high-profile person) because they believe that they’re not good enough to be communicating with her?
In the previous piece about being assertive with people who intimidate you, we talked about clarifying your values, starting small and shifting your thinking about the intimidating person.
That is, we can change our perception of the person, so we no longer feel intimidated by them. Today, we’re talking about other tools you can use.
Here are some cuts from the soul-destroying album that played on repeat in my brain every time I walked into a room: These beliefs ruled most of my adult life, and the results of these beliefs were devastating.
Because I lived in fear of other people and their opinions of me, it almost destroyed my career, my social life, and anything else meaningful in my life.
For most of my life, I freely gave my power away to anyone who wanted it.
Actually, even if you didn’t want it, I was happy to give it to you anyway.
That’s why I talk about the dangers of living a fear-controlled life so often on this blog (like here, here and here for starters.)While that’s true, there’s one form of fear that I haven’t really addressed up until this point, and it actually might be the most common form of fear that exists. Or more specifically, Before I dive in, a quick disclaimer–I’m not a psychiatrist (obviously), so if you have a legitimate full-blown phobia of other people, then this blog post definitely isn’t for you.
But for everyone else who sometimes feels scared or intimidated by other people for whatever reason, take a minute to fully absorb this quote: I’m a 42-year old man, and I’m not embarrassed to share that it took me close to 35 years of my life to get this lesson burned into my consciousness.
One of the best and worst thing in the dating world is being an intimidating person. Nevertheless, it happens quite often when a guy is particularly nervous and unfortunately, it can prevent them from telling you how they feel and making a move.