And it is not only the superficials that a divorcee’s attention is likely to be restricted to.The joys of dating a man who has been there and done that chiefly lie on the fact that he is well aware of the practical things that please a woman most. If you’ve been single long enough to have kissed more than your share of frogs, you know a good man is hard to find.
Men who are worth your emotional investment are those who tend to be more vulnerable.
They may be trying to figure out why the last relationship didn’t work.
Here are some of the pros and cons of dating a divorcee: Pros 1.
Time – divorce is often the result of a relationship where people rushed in too quickly and didn’t really take sufficient time to get to know each other.
Two years ago, I met a gentleman I shall henceforth call James, because his name was, well, James. It lasted a full 10 hours (we’d met up for coffee at 3 p.m.
on a Saturday), and we discussed everything from the rudeness inherent to chronic lateness to how we both hate the book KNOW.
This can often result in them being much more open minded and adaptable themselves with a deeper understanding that every person’s situation is unique and not necessarily a reflection of their values or beliefs – a divorcee may still believe in the sanctity of marriage but their ex didn’t. Communication – good communication skills are at the heart of any lasting healthy relationship.
Someone who has been married and shared their life with someone, will probably have developed more emotional intelligence and good communication skills than someone who has never had that experience. Once bitten – for some divorcees the experience was so painful that they resolve to never make the same mistake again and therefore will not consider remarrying.
Although someone who is divorced is as single as someone who has been widowed or never married, there are certain differences which will make their situation unique and could pose challenges in the development of something new.
Naturally these will not apply to everyone who is divorced – there will be differences depending on when the divorce happened; whether it was amicable and whether there are children involved.
Having had a relationship, a wedding and a shared home will have given them a chance to find out who they are and what is important to them.