Case history: “What works for me is when a guy mentions something unexpected, because it makes me totally curious and shows that he’s got more going on than a 9-to-5 job.
However, there is one easy, proven way to respond to a woman’s profile in a way that would stand out from most other e-mails that she is receiving and would make her much more likely to write back to you. You read a profile, and let’s say that one of the things that a woman says about herself is this: “I am low maintenance, I prefer reading to drinking, theater to movies, and jogging to sitting.” You can open your response very effectively by simply quoting something that she said.
For instance, you can start your e-mail to her with: “…prefers reading to drinking and theater to movies” – I am at a loss of words…
The beauty of sending flirty text messages is that you can say a variety of things in many ways that you normally couldn't face to face - and I don't mean because the shy-factor has been removed.
Think about some of the chat lingo that has seeped into many real-world interactions (LOL, or Laugh Out Loud, is a perfect example) and use one or several of these terms/emoticons to show what you mean.
It absolutely got me to write back.” —Kim Newman, San Diego, CA Love lesson: The number-one challenge in online dating is standing out from the crowd somehow (in a good way, of course).
Everyone is intrigued by a person who’s had an unusual experience—it makes for more surprising small talk and anecdotes they can remember—so don’t hesitate to mention your huge collection of cheesy salt shakers, your speed-walking trophy, the fact that you grew up on a commune or anything else that may make someone just curious enough to write back and find out more.
ouldn’t it be great if every time you sent a message to a member whose profile you dug, you heard back right away with a friendly “You sound intriguing. Well, unfortunately, it won’t always happen, but there are things you can write to increase your chances of engaging your crush in an e-conversation.
We asked online daters to reveal what aspect of a suitor’s email piqued their interest and prompted them to hit “reply.” By hearing their stories, you’ll learn how to tweak your own missives so that the objects of your affection will want to know lots more about you.
” —Steven Gartland, Poughkeepsie, NY Love lesson: It’s so simple, but when people are working to impress another person, they can forget to focus on, well, that other person.