This is Red Flag #2: He Talks About His Ex Listening to your date talk about his ex is not only annoying, it’s an ironclad sign he isn’t over his marriage yet.
It doesn’t matter if his comments are critical, complimentary, or just factual. A man who talks about his ex may only be grieving his marriage, but it’s also possible he’s grieving the ex herself (which means there’s no room for YOU).
However the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down.
Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.
Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.
grief, angry exes, hurting children, financial problems).
If he’s recently divorced, be cautious, take things slow, and make sure you get your needs met before getting too involved.
You’ll have to be able to accept the fact that his wife will always be part of his life.
The two may still be in contact, especially if kids are involved.
This is important in determining whether or not you’re willing to go through with the relationship.