Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM I'm turned off by fat men (more than 40 lbs overweight) for the same reason "shuts the attraction off" - obesity is a sign that something's wrong in his life and he's not dealing with it. Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM I LOVE a well rounded chubby man!Not huge and blubbery with monster thighs that rub together when he walks.
David, one of the men at our table, saw a female colleague across the room and excused himself to go say hello. Several women at the table told Rob point blank that he was an idiot. A couple of men just shook their heads at Rob's comment.
When he came back to our table, he gestured in the woman's direction and said that perhaps Rob might be interested in meeting her. She's traveled around the world twice, knows her way around Rome as easily as she does New York City, and she's in the middle of changing careers from teaching to law. I said nothing and my husband squeezed my knee under the table.
Desire may be influenced by norms, but that’s usually one piece of a very big puzzle.
If we know anything to be true when it comes to attraction and sexuality, it’s that those things are incredibly diverse; we can’t accurately quantitatively measure one person’s appeal for another.
Right now, in white Western culture, does “hot” most typically also mean “thin,” according to those standards? The good news is that people’s emotional and sexual attractions often aren’t based on those standards.
The idea that only thin women are attractive to others just isn’t sound.Dating my boyfriend hasn’t magically made me okay with my weight’s fluctuations, but what his presence has done it make me feel beautiful in his eyes no matter what, and look at why I might be gaining weight. When I get bad news, I want to soothe myself with salt.In his case, I believe it’s genetic; he’s been heavy since a very young age, and didn’t slim down even when playing football twice a day. That’s something you can’t hide when you live with someone, nor would I want to.Saturday, June 21, 2008, PM To be honest, I really can't help but to be attracted to muscles!Not like scary bodybuilder muscles, but great definition and strong arms/back.But once we started dating, the kind of fat talk I’d regularly engaged in about myself, usually silently, wouldn’t cut it. When I feel like a failure about my body, that extends into other arenas, making me less enthusiastic about my writing, sure that, somehow, other people are making those same judgments.