Last month, when things were getting serious, he told me that his ex-wife is six months pregnant with his child—conceived when they "celebrated" their divorce becoming legal.
She chose to keep the child, and he's supportive (tension about infertility was one of the reasons they split in the first place).
If you have good rapport with your child, have regular talks with them and they respect you, then it is important that you get their approval.
Check his credentials: If you have a toddler or baby and the guy is okay with dating you, then this next step is important.
This article first appeared on Gal By Marina Sbrochi You thought dating was hard the first time? You don’t want to introduce someone and one month later have to explain to your children why they don’t see "Mike" anymore. Telling your children they have to be nice or like someone is a sure fire way to ruin the meeting. For instance, a backyard BBQ with friends and your new man. Trust me, going slow now will ensure you have success later. One Mom, One Dad : Reassure your children that they only have one mom and one dad. I told my children this a few months after I introduced my then boyfriend to them.
Here you are, single again, but this time with children. I would also advise that you let your ex-husband know you are introducing someone to your children. It’s not just your life; it’s your kid’s lives too. You should introduce him as a friend and give your children the chance to get to know your guy in a fun, relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. My son actually liked my boyfriend so much he wanted to call him dad.
Have a long talk about expectations, discipline, money, education and anything else you might deal with. You want your children to be happy in this new environment.
Dating after divorce can be tricky, but if you take your time and navigate the right way, it can be a win-win for everyone. I dated my boyfriend (now my husband) for six months before I introduced him to my children.
You may need to run some sort of background check or something to know what kind of temperament the guy has.
A suave, zen-like guy who can hold in his inner lion is great but if you have a temper tantrum throwing lunatic around your baby, you need to drop him like a bad habit.
I had to be sure he would be in my life in for a long time. I had a pool party with about four adult guests, him being one of them. We did about five more group outings before he came to do things with just me and my two children.