But what if you chat someone up only to discover she's not only single, but a mom? You like this woman because she is capable and determined and basically an all-around life-conquering badass, right?
The willingness to date or pursue a relationship with a single parent requires patience and understanding.
It can take time to develop a comfort zone, not only with a new person, but also with the kids and with the new person as a parent as well.
Making a specific ask that includes the top 3 qualities your seeking in a mate is more likely to fill up your dance card than just waiting for other to think of you for a blind date.6.
Don’t Date your Ex’s Opposite – The tendency after a relationship ends is to rebound with someone who has all the qualities that your ex lacked.
Say Yes – As a the mother of a 3-year-old, I understand that it feels weird to go out again after you’ve had kids but this time when someone invites you somewhere, say yes. You are sexy, caring, a great match and to snag your next spouse you need to feel good about yourself. Many moms are so over-committed that new partners feel you don't have time for them.
Try getting a new wardrobe (or a few pieces) or starting a new workout routine. I recommend carving out 2 to 3 hour 'dates' every week that you can use to see someone new, go to a singles mixer, or browse dating sites. You know how to flirt, how to ask someone out, how to be charming, interesting, and an altogether enjoyable date. If she is running up against challenges, offer her love and support and encouragement in whatever form speaks to her. If you've been in the dating scene for any significant length of time, you likely feel you've got it handled. Her life is full of responsibility and commitments and little people who need her. Not to mention that in the rare and precious moments I do have to myself, it feels like a major risk to spend that time with someone I might never see again rather than catching up with friends, reading, zoning out to Netflix, or, you know, sleeping.The men I’d normally take an interest in are often just starting their careers, still in undergrad, or staying out until 3AM every chance they get—whereas I’m living the opposite lifestyle, and as a party of two, not one. In spite of this barrage of challenges, I still have hope.There are plenty, like me, who are blissfully lacking in life experience, have yet to reach the big 3-0, and spend more time swiping left on Tinder instead.