Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once.
Judging from the questions I was asked after AARP's "Finding Love at 50 " panel in Las Vegas this spring, what happened in Vegas won't stay in Vegas after all. My sister, age 70, has a partner 14 years her junior.
Especially when you are over 50, it can be extremely scary to be back in the same place that your kids are in: the dating pool.
In fact, I'd been going about being single all wrong.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.
Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20’s.
Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.
I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.
Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.
Bette Davis once said that getting old is not for sissies.
Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60.
If you have been avoid dating online as your think that it is just for 20 years old, then you need to think once again.