The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.
I’m no slouch: tall, trim, own my own business, nice guy to a fault. “L, you are kind, decent, funny, and attractive but I just don’t feel enough “electricity” (aka infatuation) so I’m going to have to end it.”The biggest obstacle I face it is meeting this expectation of “rock me to my soul connection” fantasy man that even they can’t explain.
Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.
You are grownup and you understand how important it is to be empathetic. They want love, companionship, romance and commitment and are doing their best to navigate the rocky shores of dating over 40.
Nice, successful, decent people who find themselves single at this time in their life.
" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.
So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.
While you figure out the math, let me be clear that I’ve met several other women in their early- to mid-20s who also prefer to date from a much older pool for various reasons.
And while cliché dictates that, sure, men are into it, there’s been some recent research done about younger females often gravitate toward mature men.
Now when I say daddy, I’m not talking about a 32 year-old guy. I’m taking scruffy men in their 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s. You’ve probably realized it by now, but your twenties are a complete and utter clusterf*ck. They’re not dependent on alcohol — using it as a crutch for social anxiety. In case you didn’t know, there are different types of daddies, including muscle daddies and silver dads! Get on out there and meet the (older) man of your dreams. Find a daddy who can mentor you in all aspects of our life.
You’ve graduated college, recently come out, and are figuring out what the hell you want to do with your life, as well as the type of person you want to become. From what I’ve heard, your thirties are a little better. Related: Young gay man age shames older man and regrets it They don’t drink to forget or to fill an emptiness inside of them. They have a confidence and classiness that only comes with age. Find a daddy who can teach you a thing or two in the boudoir, and take you out to some fancy ass restaurants.
These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.