Remember what it was like to go out on a date with someone, only knowing his or her name, among other basic details?Remember what it was like to find love notes on your car? Yes, texting has become a necessary means for communication, but it is that element of convenience that has led to dating's downfall.Sure, he wouldn’t be spending any time if he wasn’t attracted to you, but if he’s solely texting, he doesn’t think of you as a potential partner. You know what you need to know: he isn’t a good, grownup man worth your time. A text ‘relationship’ is simply like being a player in a game.
The person you’re texting doesn’t necessarily know you or your sense of humor.
So re-read, double-check, and be careful: “Your texts are stripped of tone and facial expressions—no matter how many emoticons you include,” says House.
However, a lot of people aren’t using online dating to their best benefit.
One of my recent female clients had only two pictures up, and both were professional shots. It suggests that this is the best she could possibly look, and, in fact, she might be much less attractive.
All this begs the question: how do we most effectively date in the digital world?
Fortunately, we rounded up some dating experts to spill on how to become the most tech-savvy dater you can be.
Personal anecdotes become stories that you've already heard; there is no extremely new and interesting knowledge that is garnered as you casually sip your coffee or swirl the pasta around your fork in a desultory manner.
It's one thing to cover the basics through phone conversations, like family life, occupation, location, education.
Thirty-one percent of men and women met their last date online (as opposed to six percent in a bar), 34 percent of daters in their 20s expect a response to a text in under 10 minutes (!
), and far more emoji users went on a first date last year than those who never dropped a winky face on the object of their textual affection (52 percent versus 27 percent).
Or learn about a person's hopes and dreams by becoming emotionally saturated through gripping conversation? Our generation, one that lovingly relishes in the concept of instant gratification, has single-handedly managed to undermine the art of dating by means of technological evolution. Long gone are the days of daydreaming and waiting for your rotary phone to ring.