Or how this is going to affect the growth and strength of our community?
This gender divide is causing more problems that one can imagine.
For instance, I know many Asian men that refuse to stick up for Asian women for this reason alone.
Statistically, I’m the least attractive person in the dating scene. It’s why a huge clothing company like Abercrombie & Fitch can make shirts with Asian stereotypes like “Two Wongs Can Make It White.” It’s why Stephen Colbert (whom I love, by the way), can get away with non-apologies when he cracks yet another Asian joke. Worst of all, it appears that Asians don’t care, either. You can drag an Asian-American off an airplane, and the most noise you’ll hear from other Asians is that they just don’t want to be seen as noisy and displeasing.
Alongside black women, the Asian-American male is considered the most ugly and undesirable person in the room. It’s why Ryo Oyamada, a 24 year old Japanese college student, can get run over by a police car in New York, and the officer goes free and no one chants in the streets. The thing is, there are no shortage of Asian-American men who are physically and intellectually desirable, who could portray themselves as fully living beings with compelling stories and relatable conflicts.
Lisa Wong Macabasco joined Hyphen in 2006; she has worked as the magazine's features editor, managing editor, and editor in chief. Berkeley and Columbia University’s Graduate School of Journalism and co-founded the National Asian American Student Conference.
She has written for Mother Jones, the San Francisco Bay Guardian, Asian Week, Audrey, Filipinas and Color Lines’ Race Wire. She was formerly an editor at Asian Week newspaper and an editor in the marketing department of the San Francisco Museum of Modern Art. In order to speak from your high horse for such a long time without your ass getting sore; you need a saddle.
Here we have a translated article on that exact perspective from a female Chinese journalist dishing the dirt (spoiler alert: it’s not that dirty) on the unavoidable conflict when Chinese women and American men date.
The story of the happily married Chinese woman and American man has been told many times before.Your "saddle" is to pawn off all detractors or complaints from Asian men as being "bitter" and "dateless." It’s typical but not surprising.Six of Asian male friends complain about the situation for Asian men and how Asian women have pretty much shunned them from greener pastures.Editor’s note: We’ve all seen it, everywhere we go, nearly every day: an American man with a Chinese woman on his arm.We’ve also heard the stories from the foreign man’s perspective about all the cultural differences and the interesting exchanges.I know today’s market is less likely to pave new ground, with its risk-averse eye on sequels and reboots and recycling the same tale, but I wonder how we can tell new tales without resorting to the cheapest, easiest cliches, without exploiting Asian culture for “mystical credibility” but celebrating its uniqueness with a thoughtful exploration of both its treasures and its trials.