By Aleksandra Todorova If you and your partner are like most couples, chances are, you fight about money. 1 reason why couples argue — and many of the recently divorced say those battles were the main reason why they untied the knot.
While anyone will tell you that talking about money is the first step in resolving problems, talk alone won't do the trick.
Just like divorced women, divorced men are wounded. They want to be loved, they want to be treated with kindness, they want to feel appreciated, and they want to feel like they are still capable of being in a healthy relationship. Some divorced men want to fall in love right away, and some want to take their time.
Being a divorced person for six years, I think I can paint a pretty accurate picture of some of the typical traits I see in divorced men.
Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don't want to feel obligated to do anything!
" No divorced guy wants to be asked these questions. All he knows is, he just got divorced and can only handle the present for right now.
Let time pass and let him breathe and get to the future.
In fact, a 2004 study commissioned by Smart Money magazine and Redbook, another Hearst publication (Smart Money magazine and Smart are jointly published by Dow Jones and Hearst), found that more than 70% of couples talk about money on a weekly basis. "Most of us don't know to talk about money," says Mary Claire Allvine, a certified financial planner (CFP) and co-author of "The Family CFO: The Couple's Business Plan for Love and Money." "People tend to be emotional and reactive about money, not strategic," she says.
When emotions run high, people tend to make fiscal mistakes.
I’ve had some real life experiences regarding this topic and I've learned somehow to navigate my way through the circumstances.
Now I have the privilege of sharing a bit of what I’ve learned on this blog. You might also know that my first marriage didn't quite work out as I'd hoped.
I recently received an email from a female reader seeking my input on a situation that she's dealing with.