If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
But if you are really serious about getting serious in love, you have to learn to take the plunge at some point in time.
Of course, you may come across failures and bad relationships, but you need to remember that you won’t have any new lessons or experiences in love if you’re too timid to give your heart to someone who wants to spend a lifetime with you. Why do you hold yourself back from falling in love, really?
Most relationships go through a “gray” trial period where both partners are unsure if they're on the same page with feelings and the status of the relationship.
This period is as exciting as it is emotionally tumultuous.
As time passes, however, confusion, disagreement and possible pain about this "non-relationship" grows. They may have had painful experiences in past relationships and still feel too vulnerable and wounded to jump back into another one now, or ever.
They may hold beliefs that they will lose independence and a sense of control over their lives if they enter into a committed relationship.
It’s not always your fault if you feel like you’re not ready for a serious relationship.
You could be dating someone who truly loves you, but as much as you try, there may be circumstances when you just can’t fall in true love with them, even if you really like them a lot and love dating them! Have you ever dated someone who seems perfect for you, but you just couldn’t see him or her as a long-term partner?
Do you tell everyone else that you’re not ready only because you have a secret checklist of likes and dislikes in your mind when you look out for a partner?
And instead of appearing vain and conceited, and reveal that you haven’t found a person worthy enough to date you, do you find it easier to tell everyone that you’re not ready to make a serious commitment?
You're discovering the other person and maybe even falling in love, but also keeping your guard up.