Also avoid people that disclose too much, whether it’s a recent staph infection, bankruptcy or bad breakup.And Mc Dermott recommends steering clear of people who don’t have kids but use undue space in their profile soliciting information about the age and sex of your children.
And, interestingly, marriages that begin online are less likely to result in separation or divorce, and those that remained married are happier than their offline counterparts.
begin online, according to a 2013 study released by the National Academy of Sciences.
But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.
Self-description: If the user name or headline is weird, overtly sexual or otherwise inappropriate — Bangyourdaddy, 69Reasons — you can stop there, says Trish Mc Dermott, a founding team member of
So improve your chance of success by keeping an eye out for the following red flags as you sort through potential date’s profiles: Photos: Photos can tell you a lot about a potential date.
No photo, or a grainy, out-of-focus or outdated photo, are a sign that the person probably has something to hide, or else is not really serious about the dating process.
In retrospect, individuals are often baffled about their own behavior and expectations in a relationship.
A really good exercise I ask my clients to do is to write down every partner they’ve had a significant relationship with, and then, for each, answer questions such as: What attracted you to this person initially? Was your fantasy about this person—what you imagined or assumed to be true—validated in reality? Did revelations during the course of the relationship change your mind? Do any patterns, similarities from relationship to other relationships, emerge?
How can you address another’s needs and desires if you're disconnected from your own?