I'm glad more people are recognizing that being fat isn't a problem of being lazy and eating Cheetos off your chest all day, but it's also not always a medical condition. But if dudes continue to be dismissed when they try to talk about body issues, it's just going to make us care more, not less. "I like/love you even though you're fat." This is something that many dudes I know have explicitly heard.
I know plenty of guys who struggle with their weight while also trying to eat healthy and exercising.4. Like stress and societal pressure and not being able to fit on the rides at the amusement park (which leads to more stress). What I am allergic to is people gently suggesting I might try a salad when we go to a restaurant. I also don't consume entire baskets of bread at home, but if I'm at the Cheesecake Factory, you'd better believe I'm going to town on the rolls.11. " As opposed to now when I look like an actual monster that crawled out from under someone's bed? In fact, so many dudes care about how they look that eating disorders and body dysmorphia are on the rise. I'm not saying that men are as violently shamed for not fitting a certain ideal as women are, but there's definitely pressure for us to look like the dudes on TV and also Channing Tatum.
Plus, some of us have difficult relationships with food. I don't know about you, but I can put two tablespoons of dressing on a piece of lettuce at home. Friend, if I'm not telling you that you'd look cuter if you cut your hair, plucked your eyebrows, or took off that hideous velour track suit, you don't need to tell me how cute I'll look once I weigh 150 pounds and can fit into skinny jeans. "At least no one cares how guys look." Except I care! Unfortunately, not all of us will get there and that's OK.
"Hey, big guy." Oh my god, there is nothing worse than being referred to as "big guy" when you're a big guy. And when you try to de-emphasize looks as much as possible, it makes people feel like you're with them despite their weight, which is kind of a problem.3. Being a fat dude doesn't mean you're not an active dude. I don't know what this platitude is supposed to do, but I can guarantee it's not having the desired effect. "At least you don't have to worry about shopping for clothes." Guess what: Fat dudes like dressing nice too.
You wouldn't go up to a larger woman and say, "Hey, big girl," so why is it OK to say it to dudes? "You're a guy, so you'll lose that weight quick if you want to." I've actually lost a lot of weight in the past year by going on a medical fast and eating 800 calories per day, but I'm lucky. I don't know what you're trying to tell me here, but why you gotta let me know I look like a "fatter version"? Plenty of fat dudes do yoga and aerobics and jog a mile (I do it by running from zombies! And the first thing people say when we express our frustration with our weight? And we often don't get that chance because the awesome rainbow cardigan at H&M is a European extra-large, which is like an American extra-small. "Maybe you have thyroid problems." Could be, but those are rare and I've had my thyroid checked.
What’s interesting is how women use height in gauging their attraction for men.
It turns out that height, like many other factors, depends on the individual – their own physical characteristics and what they’re looking for in a mate. Let’s first start with the tendency for women to prefer taller men since this idea is a common expectation.
Here are six secrets men need to know about women to help them stop that "thing" in their head from destroying their dating life: Women have baggage, too, especially the attractive ones. But I also know it's a tough one for men to swallow.
You think insecurity and low confidence are only for those who are fat, bald and ugly? Just because a woman is hot does not mean that her life is perfect. It's simply one thing about a woman that she literally wears on her sleeve. Obviously, in the first five seconds, she judges a man based on his looks.
(CNN) -- You have to think about picking up girls the exact same way you think about picking up a box. It thinks, analyzes and makes excuses, so rejection is self-inflicted before women even get a chance to do it.
After working with thousands of men all around the world, I have found that the common issue holding men back with women is that "thing" on top of their shoulders.
While the common dating ‘rules’ – not that I believe in rules – can apply to anybody, there are perhaps a few things we, as gay guys, need to pay a little more attention to.