You’re telling yourself you are afraid of hurting her feelings. You’re not intentionally trying to hurt her or lie, but that is what you are doing. You didn’t get into this with the intention of lying, but that’s what’s happening. We get caught up in thinking love is all about romance, but that’s only a small part of what lesbian love, and love in general, is about.You also tell yourself if you stick with it a little longer, maybe love will show up or she’ll break up with you. Love is also caring and respecting someone as a unique and special individual on this planet who deserves your honesty about your own self in the relationship. The kindest and most loving thing you can do in this situation is to tell her the truth. She’ll be hurt if she really cares for you, but she can then move on to find someone who can really treasure her. She’s most likely going to say she wants to stay connected, but you’re going to have to change the rhythm of how you spend time together.The trouble is she’s really into you and can’t get enough.
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You see, if you know anything about attracting women, then you must know that predictability is one of the biggest killers of attraction.
Imagine that you were a girl and you were dating this great but very predictable guy.
* These dating traps are not my own; they come from notes on a lesson during a course on Marriage & Counseling, while studying at Oral Roberts University.
SCARCITY TRAPAfter reading these dating traps, you might be wondering, “so how do I not fall into one of these traps? For a start, read this post on 5 questions to ask, before dating & proposing to someone.
To help singles battle these thinking errors, I often use the example of Peter (in Matthew -31) who was able to walk on the water when his eyes were on the Savior.
When his gaze turned from the Savior to the wind, the waves, the sea, and the storm, he fell.
It actually comes naturally to for us humans to create routines and follow them all the time, because it’s easier for us, it’s comforting, and it doesn’t require too much effort. All you can do is to “communicate”; no touching, no kissing, no cuddling, no (real)sex…all you can do is communicate.