I'm going to tell you exactly what to do if your ex is seeing someone else. There's no sense in perpetuating your depression, especially because your depression might even be stemming from something that isn't real.
When an ex gets in a new relationship it can feel like we are behind the evolutionary eight-ball—especially if she is the first one to find someone new. We are all private investigators/stalkers thanks to Facebook. And if you broke up because you wanted your ex to change and he wouldn’t, now is the time to be the change you wanted to see in him. As an intuitive counselor who supports people through break-ups, I witness how lost my clients feel.
Then after you have farmed info, comparisons will be made. The natural impulse is to try and gain control of the situation by ruminating or focusing on what went wrong. It’s important to sift through what feels like failures so that you can extrapolate the lessons.
So your ex is smart just like you and is not used to being single. Don't apologize thinking it's YOU caused this break-up to happen, and if you did do something to sabotage the relationship, don't apologize more than once. That is what to do if your ex is seeing someone else.
Stop making promises that you'll change or mold yourself into someone that you're not simply to get your ex back. And if you find yourself at the point where you want to beg, take a deep breath then invest in my book .
Broke up with my ex over a year ago, but had still been hooking up pretty much monthly since then.
She even cheated on a boyfriend with me for some time (four to five months).
Hooking up with someone may distract you from whatever you are feeling now, but it probably won’t help in the long run. Unless you genuinely care for the person and want to have fun or be with them, it won’t do you or them any justice to just mess around.
And even if you do find someone that you want to be with, make sure you feel that you are ready for a new relationship and not to rush into things.
As much as information is power, it is also a demon. Instead: Take a break from social media or do a cleanse.
Use the time to unfollow or unfriend those people who may not really be contributing to your happiness.
Emily*, a senior at Framingham State University, says, "I was getting ready to finally enter a new relationship with someone I felt a true connection with.