It all starts with physical contact—touching, hugging and kissing. “One flesh” means to have sexual intercourse (1 Corinthians ) and, according to God’s instructions, this is to take place after a man and woman have been joined together in marriage. It does clearly say that we aren’t to have sex prior to marriage (1 Corinthians , New Revised Standard Version).
Having sex prior to marriage is immoral and, according to God’s Word, we are supposed to “flee sexual immorality” (1 Corinthians ). So we’re supposed to run away from premarital sex and things that could entice us to be immoral. Because abstinence has been described in such negative terms, some educators are now choosing to use the word postponement to describe the process of delaying sex until marriage. Human history shows that these “touchy” activities often lead to lustful desire and sex. Some have asked, “Just how far can a Christian go without sinning?
Not to mention that everyone seems to interpret “we’re seeing each other” vs.
“we’re dating” differently – to some people they’re the same thing, to others dating implies far more committment.
And holding hands while walking down the street can sometimes indicate affection without any commitment.
Or maybe you dated for a while, started having sex, and now it seems the relationship is all about simply hanging out and having sex – what exactly does that mean?
When people believe it is to have sex before marriage, a little (or a lot of) touching doesn’t really mean anything. Two young people fall in love and, before they are married, they decide to have sex.
Even though current stats show that the majority of high school students don’t have sex, many movies like this present this scene as the norm for young people before they say “I do.” The way it unfolds is true to life. In Genesis , God explains how and when a sexual union between a man and a woman should take place: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (emphasis added throughout). The Bible doesn’t specifically address these areas.Just ask any red-blooded male or female who has had a close encounter with Miss Good Looking or Mr. Hand-holding, hugging, kissing or any other similar contact can be oh so delightful.The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation. Sex alone almost never indicates a relationship these days unless you’ve actually discussed being exclusive before getting naked. Depending on your situation the answer could be both or neither, and if it is just one the answer is far more likely to be holding hands.But in today's dating era, holding hands feels more intimate than ever.