Every time you go out on a date, you open up the gate wide and invite someone in to enjoy your fruits before you know they are trustworthy. This act of gatekeeping protects our hearts and helps us to avoid making quick emotional decisions that cause more relational havoc.
Important question to ask when dating
Dates can be either the most exciting or the most stomach-churning experience a person can have while trying to get to know someone.
That’s where good-old dating questions come into play.
The nervous laughs, the desire to impress and the hope of finding “the one” is juxtaposed with the lingering memories of more bad first dates than good ones.
And in that awkward and uncomfortable space, we make all sorts of bad decisions to avoid the unknown, like using alcohol to relax or sexual intimacy to connect.
How did we get into this mess, and how can we avoid it next time? Boundaries are crucial on a first date, which is why it’s important to use the opportunity to gather information.
Setting Boundaries Starts With Good Questions Imagine having a fence around your garden with a locked gate. Once you know more about someone, you can decide if they’ll be allowed to enter your emotional space.
When it comes to dating, it seems you can find hundreds of thousands of websites, books, and people offering their tips and advice.
I've personally read and heard a lot of this advice, but what I think is the most helpful when it comes to dating isn't giving and getting prescriptions -- it's asking and answering questions.
If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.