Instead of seeing yourself as this low self-esteem, sad, put-upon girl who throws herself at unavailable men only to discover that, in fact, they’re unavailable, how about you flip the script? When I started reading the letter I could identify with that feeling in many ways, and “not wanting to be alone” lead me to tolerate things I shouldn’t have and to act in ways that didn’t make me feel proud of myself.
When this happens, dating is usually the first activity that gets axed, though there are several other reasons career women sometimes lose interest in finding love. We juggle working (sometimes more than one job), household maintenance, personal projects, and time with our friends.
When we do have an evening off, we’re exhausted and just want to have a quiet night in with some wine and Netflix.
It’s often for the best, and as much as it hurts, you’ve got to take away the life lessons and move on. What if you’ve just only hit a small speed bump, and giving up the relationship is something you’ll later come to regret?
But in a lot of relationships, it just starts to feel old, and things start getting boring.
I don’t have many hobbies to focus on which is probably part of my problem. I used to have a happier more fulfilling life when I didn’t think so much about guys. ☺ The wisest among us are the ones who can acknowledge and understand another’s point of view.
And I’m sure being this desperate and needy probably scares them away. It doesn’t mean you’re going to change your mind entirely, but it means you have to be open to the possibility of a different truth.
But it could also mean it’s time to cut your losses and move on. If you feel like you’re losing interest in your relationship and in your significant other, here’s how to tell if it’s a temporary blip, or a sign that it’s time for a big change. Spending time together in a normal relationship should not feel like a chore.
If you have a slight feeling of dread before meeting up with your significant other, that does not bode well for you two.
Then, when we do meet an awesome dude, it’ll just be a happy surprise rather than a necessity. Anyone who’s come far enough to have a busy successful career but still be single has been through the wringer at least a couple times.