If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.
These guys and their data teams ran queries of all kinds and pulled spreadsheet after spreadsheet of information to try and answer our strange questions.
We also needed Ok Cupid to get permission from their users to enable us to publish those popular profile pics.
Users skim profiles looking for a reason to send a message or dismiss (hint: do not mention your mom or exes).
Call it the algorithm method: Working with data crunchers at the dating sites, we put together 25 tips for writing the perfect profile, selecting the right photo, and really understanding your audience.
Combining the two in an online dating scenario can complicate the delicate dance even further. Maybe Boy and Girl meet—or maybe they don’t, and if they do, do Boy and Girl live up to their profiles and live happily ever after?
Once it was: “Boy meets Girl,” and, depending on circumstance, “Boy gets (or does not get) Girl.” Now, it’s Boy posts profile. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions? Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence.
)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into. For example, writing that "I really to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK.
And a message that seals the deal on the trifecta of feeling hopeless: "Wussup babe.
Much of your destiny online depends on the quality of your online dating profile. It's time to stop getting passed over and start getting noticed. )." This new and improved statement provides bait for men who want to message you. Sometimes you like go out on a Friday night, but sometimes you are OK sitting in with a glass of wine and watching a movie, right?
Write the wrong thing, and you’re doomed to fail, with your empty inbox serving as a constant reminder that your profile’s problematic.