Classic examples are people who are discourteous to, for instance, restaurant staff or who rage at others right in front of you.
One reader went on 4-5 dates with somebody who went absolutely ballistic while driving with her on all of the dates – warning sign of anger issues.
But whatever the case, don’t be one of the naive ladies out there that scumbags love taking advantage of.
Take control of your destiny and figure out if the man you are dating can be trusted.
If you look at your mutual and healthy relationships you will see that these people don’t put you down and rarely cross the line and if they do, they feel bad about it and don’t keep repeating it. Your instincts are correct when the behaviour you witnessed keeps showing up.
It’s the very subtle yet niggling stuff that sets the stage for what can turn into an untenable situation or even an abusive relationship.
It is impossible to have an emotional connection with someone if you cannot trust them.
It is unfortunate though, that we live in a world that takes lying to someone lightly.A partner who tells you they know best, or that you don’t know how you really feel, isn’t showing that they trust you.It’s also important to keep in mind that in a healthy relationship, you can trust that no matter what comes up your partner won’t react in a way that threatens your safety or harms you.Gut reactions are some of the most important emotions we possess, but we often tend to ignore them or push them away.It could be an indication that you should move to a brand new city, or that there might be something more to the person across the bar with whom you just locked eyes or that you are growing out of a friendship.Trust can’t be built if only one partner is willing to do this and the other isn’t. So, as your relationship progresses, ask yourself: We’re not just talking about being there physically, but emotionally, too. Are they sensitive to your problems, worries and fears?