But society told me I had to be with one person at a time, with the goal of choosing one person forever. After a really great, long-term, successfully monogamous relationship ended, I was suddenly single in my late twenties and enjoying the freedom and the variety. Adam was fun and our chemistry was fantastic and rare, and though we kept it strictly physical, with those boundaries clearly defined throughout, spending time together was becoming the highlight.
Neither of you has mustered the courage to make a move, yet.
Hands haven’t been placed on knees; you’ve not kissed.
Oh yes, this is an exquisite word, compressing a thrilling and scary relationship moment.
It’s that delicious, cusp-y moment of imminent seduction.
Secondly, if you are coming out of a lonely period, it is more difficult to be objective about your new dating partner.
It is difficult enough to keep your wits about you if you experience some degree of falling in love or infatuation with this person.
I get that it can be hard for a lot of people to understand.
But it works for us, and it’s not as unusual as it seems. An open relationship is a form of non-monogamy, which is an umbrella term for any physical or romantic partnership that is not predicated on exclusivity. In this article I’m focusing on what Adam and I are and do: a committed couple that takes lovers.
One question we often hear from singles is about dating one person versus dating more than one person at a time.
It is a good question and gets right to the heart of healthy dating practices.
There are all sorts of short term relationship structures out there like the one night stand (ONS), the friends with benefits (FWB) and the play thing (PT) (regularly scheduled sex with one person minus the friends part).